Finding Your Forever

Tonight I was rehearsing.  In a few weeks I will be singing at a friend’s wedding.  I was so honored that she asked me to partake in her celebration.  There is nothing quite so sweet as witnessing two people joining their lives together.  Merging not only their hearts, but their families, their traditions and their values.

Every little girl has a list.  This little fairy tale of who her Prince (or Princess) Charming is going to be.  Usually it includes things like:  handsome, rich, funny, pretty eyes, great body…  And the list goes on and on.  As we get older, we add to that list.  And we hope and dream and pray that we meet that man.  For me, it’s like Garth Brooks said, “Sometimes I Thank God For Unanswered Prayers”.

My friend is a tough woman.  She is used to going it alone.  She’s been raising her children and enjoying her life.  So when she met her man, she wasn’t ready to rush into anything.  But then something quite wonderful to watch began to happen to her.  She’s always been fiery, sometimes to the point of hot headedness.  She’d be the first to tell you this, so I’m not talking out of school.  But suddenly she just seemed more content.  Happier.  More centered.  Her smiles weren’t just surface movements anymore, but came from somewhere deeper inside her.  You could tell.  She just glowed.

And the thing is, this guy didn’t try to change her.  He didn’t want to.  He simply accepted her for who she was.  The results were awesome!  She was more comfortable in her own skin.  She began to change herself, though I don’t think she realized it.  She felt comfortable and safe.  She trusted him.  For the first time that I remembered, she truly began to share who she was at her core with a man.  She didn’t worry about whether or not it would work out.  She was willing to try.  To grab her happiness by the horns and hang on to it.

In a world of casual relationships and easy outs, it’s refreshing to watch two people still willing to take that plunge and commit themselves to each other.  “Your Love” by Jim Brickman and Michelle Wright will be the song I sing for them on that day.  I truly wish them all the love and happiness I’ve found in the man who didn’t quite fit my fairy tale list…but brought a list of his own of characteristics I never listed but always needed.  I wish for them the love, acceptance, friendship and trust that matter so much more than those little superficial things.

I consider it icing on the cake that my man is also good looking and can cook!  I’d love to hear from you guys…  When you think love and commitment, what do you think of?  What were your childhood fantasies of that person?  Are you still searching?  Or if you’ve found your Mr/Ms Right, did it match what you dreamed of?  Share!

10 thoughts on “Finding Your Forever

  1. Mae Clair says:

    I didn’t know you sang. You’re multi-talented!

    Today’s post was lovely and romantic as always. I found that elusive love long ago and we’ve grown together through many years of marriage. He’s my soulmate, lover, protector and best friend. That sums up romance to me. 🙂


    • Kitt Crescendo says:

      Mae, that’s so sweet! Mine is my best friend, too. I look at him and hope we last the way his parents have. A few years back we flew in and the family upraised them with a 50th anniversary party. His dad still grabs her when she walks by. 🙂


  2. lenwilliamscarver says:

    Kitt what a wonderful tribute to your special friends! It took me a couple of times but I finally found someone I didn’t know I needed or wanted. He is my best friend, companion, sounding board, lover, spiritual advisor, father to his step daughters as if his own, I can not say enough except I have tried to nominate him for Sainthood many times, alas to no avail!


  3. sheridegrom - From the literary and legislative trenches. says:

    Kit – I didn’t reply when I first read this blog or even the second or third. I wanted to host your words in my mind and heart and savor them and toss them about a bit. I love the Jim Brickman song – I love most of his music and his book, ‘Simple Things’ is a treasure. As my Dad whispered as he walked me down the aisle when I married my true love, “It took you 40 years, but you finally got it right.” Dad’s gone now–but Dad’s assessment was so right. Another fab post–


    • Kitt Crescendo says:

      Sheri- I am humbled that you took the time to read this post more than once, letting the thought marinate before sharing. I’m glad you found your “one”, and even more happy for you that your dad was able to be there to see it happen. I’m sure, when the time came for him to leave you behind, it comforted him to know his beloved daughter was in good hands. And you’re right, Jim Brickman’s stuff is quite wonderful…


  4. Natalie Hartford says:

    So beautiful and wishing them all the happiness in the world. I found my life partner in much the same way and we’ve been together going on 8 years soon…He was everything I never knew I always wanted and needed…and it’s a beautiful thing when it just happens and is as easy as breathing…
    Here’s to LOVE! ~clink~


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