“You know, dimples are a form of birth defect,” a boyfriend once told me.
I had been smiling at the time, the deep dimple on my right cheek obvious. I punched him. Most people find that form of “birth defect” cute.
It was also then that I realized for the first time that there’s a vulnerability that comes with opening your heart to a person. Letting them in means showing your imperfections and hoping that somehow they won’t matter. Often I think we’d settle for the imperfections being overlooked, but there’s this part of us, deep down that hopes that somehow the right person will love us not despite our imperfections, but that those things that mar the surface are actually part of our charm.
I’m lucky to have found a man who finds my flaws to be beautiful. He knows I cry at stupid sappy stuff on TV. When it happens he turns his head, looks down at me like he’s the one who lucked out, kisses the top of my head and says “I love you.” When a song I hate comes on the radio he counts in his head to see how long it will take me to change the station, then laughs. He’ll even mispronounce words on purpose just so I’ll correct him…LOL!
The one and only time I set off the fire alarms to our house happened this year. I had been baking a cake for my family and misread the tin instructions, filling it with double the amount of batter it was able to handle. The cake overflowed in the oven causing smoke to billow out everywhere. Our fire alarms are connected to our home security system. In my panic, I accidentally sent the security service to voice mail instead of answering and letting them know it was a fire alarm, prompting a visit by the fire department. My normally unflappable self had disappeared amidst the stress.
At first he tried to tease me into a better mood, but quickly realized it wasn’t going to work this time. Knowing the fire department was on their way, he sent me out to the driveway to handle them. He started airing out the house, calming the dogs while I stood outside and told the fire department that it was an accident and everything was under control. Once the smoke cleared (literally) he tried again to calm me down. Knowing I was frustrated and angry at my mistake, and that I had church early in the morning he sent me off to bed. He re-did the cake for me while I slept.
When someone can love you like that, allowing yourself to be vulnerable to them is easy. I’m lucky. I know it. But I also know I’m not the only lucky one. I’d love to hear some stories centered around flaws…maybe things you’ve found sweet or things that have been done for you to help you feel better… What can I say? Everyone loves a lover…
I think this song best illustrates how sweet that kind of love can be…
Aww, your guy sounds terrific! My husband is like that too so I always love to hear stories from other people who have amazing love. I’m really having a hard time this week with my career and have been since the Hurricane Sandy. But my husband is so supportive of me and has been picking up the slack in regard to bills and such. He totally believes in me and that is comforting that I can share my fears with him and he’ll assure me everything is going to be alright. He’s the first person I ever felt totally comfortable around. I can’t sing and have no rhythm (and he’s a musician) yet he loves when I sing to him and my cute little dances.
I’m so happy for you and I’d love to hear more stories! The dimple sounds cute and your ex sounds like a jerk!
LikeLike
Thanks. The ex was a jerk. He thought he was being funny/charming. I think my punch hurt more than his comment did, LOL!
I’m so glad you have a husband who knows what it means to truly be supportive. I also think it’s adorable that he loves when you sing to him, especially since it’s not your forte. 🙂
LikeLike
The two if your are blessed to have found eachother, so nice to here a happy story!
Happy Friday
🙂
B.
LikeLike
Hear sorry (typo)
LikeLike
Thanks. I think we are, too.
LikeLike
Our true love is sustainable at the point it becomes unconditional. I know there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for my husband and the same goes for the way he cares for me. It’s the accumulation of the touches, the smiles, the ways we treat each other on ordinary days that allow us to know they’ll have our back when everyone else believes we’re burning down the house!
LikeLike
Great point, Sheri!
LikeLike
Oh, I love this post! There really is something amazing about loving someone wholly and completely, including those idiosyncrasies. I remember dating a guy a while back that would look at me like I’d lost my mind now and then when I’d awkwardly dance around the kitchen like a loon. J gets in there and dances with me. It’s freeing to be yourself, with all those silly little things you do, and knowing you’re loved because of them. Sounds like you’re hubby is a prince among men! 🙂
LikeLike
Aww! I love that. Hubby does silly, goofy dances for me, too….just because he can & he knows it makes me smile. He sings (wayyyy off key, too) because he knows I think he’s cute when he does it. Glad you’ve got yourself a keeper, too. 🙂
LikeLike
A post about love … warm love .. tender love .. understanding love .. deep love … friendly love – and passionate love.
LikeLike
Yup!
LikeLike
The Girl Who Stokes My Flames has a dimple, and I think it’s the most adorable thing…
LikeLike
And that’s what makes you a Modern Day Philosopher. Obviously, my oblivious ex was not nearly as discerning as you. 😉
LikeLike
I do everything I can to make her smile just so I can see the dimple… 😀
LikeLike
Awwww!
LikeLike
Awww…he’s a sweetie! To be honest, there are so many little things my hubby does for me that they almost override any big things he’s done. Just this morning he went and snowblowed everything and took my keys with him to warm up my car for me. When I have tough days at work, he’ll take on my normal chores at home so I can relax without question. It’s amazing how those little things help every day.
LikeLike
Aww! LJ, you’re right…those little things count for so much. I’m glad he takes care of you.
LikeLike
Oh yea…ha ha ha…I was there for that one! He did an amazing job saving the day!
LikeLike
Yes, he did!
LikeLike
Hey, sounds like you have a good man there. He loves you no matter what – even though you almost burnt down the house! He’s a keeper!
Personally, my girl does does the same thing when it comes to sappy movies and tv shows. I do thinks it’s endearing.
Phil
http://www.blog.theregularguynyc.com
LikeLike
Hey now… I got nowhere near burning down the house. I just smoked us up a bit, LOL! And yeah, he’s a keeper.:-)
Glad to know you see the same sweet things in your lady.
LikeLike
He redid the cake for you???
*smiles* …good man that. And that you let him do these things for you …that is good too nod nods.
LikeLike
Marriage is a partnership, right? It’s important that we take care of each other. When he’s feeling weak, I’m strong. When I am, he’s strong. I’m lucky he’s not a man that just pays lip service to that belief. 🙂
LikeLike
Thank you for this clip – it got me a little teary, I am glad you are happy and that he lets you be you. Mr. S and I are like that – tis a truly rare relationship to have. xx
LikeLike
It is. As for the song…I LOVE it. Always have. Long before I became the girl that burnt the cake, LOL!
LikeLike
You’ve got a good one there!
LikeLike
🙂 I agree.
LikeLike