Mothers are powerful. Through them, children learn life lessons like self worth, empowerment, or sometimes…the opposite.
A mother’s feelings about her body or sexuality are often passed down and reflected in her children, particularly, daughters. A mother who diets a lot and speaks negatively about her body and weight sends the message that beauty is contingent on a very specific body image, often one that’s almost impossible to live up to.
The other day, it was driven home to me just how impressionable children are and how important a mother’s role is. A fellow author friend was lamenting the fact that her 3 year old had become convinced that she was “sick” and must stay home by her day care teacher because she’d been coughing. Apparently the teacher told her she shouldn’t be at school. My friend knew it was allergies, but because “teacher said,” her little girl could not be convinced to go to school because she was “sick.”
One word from that teacher. That’s all it took to convince a 3 year old. Wow! Is it any wonder that it got me thinking about other messages parents send their children, intentional or otherwise? I’ve shared the positive impact my own mother made on me regarding body image and sexuality….
But what does one do when the messages sent to them weren’t so uplifting? How does one go about fixing themselves so that they can be a better, stronger person for their children? Recently I saw this video by Amy Jo Goddard and thought she had some great points…
A mother’s job is so important. She molds and builds her children to be strong, capable, productive members of society…hopefully who are also comfortable in their own skins, with their own bodies. She can raise children who aren’t afraid to embrace life, make their own decisions…and handle all the consequences, both good and bad.
What valuable lessons did your mother teach you? If your a mom, what message do you hope you’ve imparted on your children?
In honor of all the wonderful Mothers out there…and the wonderful and challenging job they have, I’m giving away my first novelette, Three For All….so go grab your Freebie and tell your friends!
Here’s a little excerpt:
“Oh, come on,” James whined. “You’re not seriously going to make me go play by myself.”
“That was a loaded statement.” I bit my tongue to keep from giggling over James’ inadvertent innuendo. “But seriously, there are always options.”
“Options?” His eyes were nearly black with intensity, his curiosity was caught. “Such as?”
“Well,” I smiled brightly and stepped between both men, “We could always head back to your uncle’s cottage. Much more privacy there.”
James shook his head as he took a step back. “Oh, hell no. This is my vacation too. We are not going back there just so I can sit all by myself in my room while you two get your freak on, christening every room in the place. Been there, done that. No thanks. Not today. Love you, but no.”
The urge to do a happy dance at the opportunity that just landed in my lap was nearly irresistible. Instead, I batted my eyes at them playfully as my hands found their way up both men’s chests, enjoying the feel of firm muscle. “Who said you had to be by yourself?”
15 thoughts on “The Power of Mothers”
To be honest, I have know idea what I have taught my daughters, they would be the ones to answer. I have many faults and I am sometimes reminded of them. I am not perfect and never have professed to be. Motherhood is the toughest gig, trying to get it right every time is impossible. I can only hope what I have done will be thought of in their latter years as -mum gave it her best shot. xx
That’s all anyone can really ask of you, my friend. I’m sure your girls appreciate your love and support.
Thank you sweet and nice to see you again 🙂 x
Sexy excerpt, Kitt! And lovely tribute to mothers. I know I appreciate mine today and every day!
Me, too, my friend! Grateful for every day.
So much truth you speak of, Kitt. My mother was so stoic and strong, she taught me how to handle the challenges and to not look back. She also taught me confidence. I hope I have passed some of this down to my babes. Kindness is a big one for me. 💖
Maria, I can’t imagine that you didn’t succeed in passing that message along. You kindness and generosity of spirit are the first things I noticed about you. You’ve let that lesson by example.
Nice post to celebrate moms on their special day, while also throwing in a bit of sexy naughtiness!
Thanks… I do try. 😉
I love this post, Kitt! Especially the quote at the top. My mama always told me the best gift she could give me was to make sure I could live without her. And she did! Which was a good thing, because she passed 10 years ago…far too soon.
I’m a huge fan of moms and empowering women to be great role models. This post has me all fired up. 🙂
Sounds like your mom was awesome, too! Sorry to hear you lost her way too soon, but it sounds like she prepared you for life. What a wonderful gift to leave behind.
YAY, Kitt! My mom taught us to be independent, and said she would know she had done her job if we grew up knowing we could do whatever we chose, and not have to depend on a man.
Yup. Lots of messages in there. She came from a VERY conservative Pennsylvania Dutch background. Thinking about and talking about sensuality were SO not in her wheel house. What was in her noggin was a lifelong resentment that she was denied permission to become a nurse. Women were educated through high school, and then expected to marry and ‘beget.’ By the time she was 24, she had four daughters aged 3, 2, 1, and new born. Four years later she had my fourth sister.
She’s gone now — mentally taken from us over a decade before her body gave out.
Yet! That ONE overriding belief in us is what came back to me when I got sober and learned to trust and embrace adventure.
WONDERFUl Post, my friend. WONDERFUL reads, too. Both of them are playful (your voice is SO there) and SMOKIN’ HOT reads.
First….what an important message your mom taught. As for the resentment, I get it. My bio-dad had a lot of that growing up in a blue collar town. He was offered a music scholarship, but his father wouldn’t support it. Said “real” men either worked in the factories or joined the military & college was a waste of money. Those were his choices. He picked the military.
So glad you enjoyed my books, by the way!
What a lovely tribute to your mother, who sounds awesome. Looks like she did a great job raising her children! Thanks for the post.