How Do You Find Your Missing Holiday Spirit?

Unfortunately, this holiday season is not always so joyful for everyone. Sometimes, that pressure to seek and find joy can make it so much more difficult. Loss and heartache feel so much more pronounced when the people with whom you shared such wonderful, joyous times are no longer there.

So what can we do? Be more sensitive. Be more kind. More patient. More forgiving. Do something nice for someone else just because. And parents? Why not use this as a prime opportunity to share a giving moment with your kids? Check out what my friend, Shan, did with hers HERE!

Last week I travelled up to New York for some training with the new day job. On my way home on Friday I stopped at the Starbucks in Charlotte airport for some pumpkin spice to keep me awake during my layover. I was looking through my bag, trying to get to my debit card when a pilot joined the line. I let him go ahead of me since I was in no hurry and had no idea if he might be. You can imagine my surprise and pleasure when he placed his order, looked over at me, asked what I was having, and added it to his tab. No one had ever done anything like that for me before. A total stranger made my very long day imminently more bearable.

Sometimes those little gestures that don’t seem like much can make a world of difference. Keep in mind, that little thing might make more of an impact than you have ever imagined.

25 thoughts on “How Do You Find Your Missing Holiday Spirit?

  1. shanjeniah says:

    I love your Starbucks story! Especially since, last year, the kids and I went to a Starbucks because they were doing some type of Nintendo free download they wanted to participate in. We bought a five dollar gift card, and passed it to the couple going in as we were going out. It was delicious to see their surprised smiles.

    Once, a few years ago, a woman in a store my son and I were shopping at handed us $20 to cover our purchases. She’d been in the snack aisle with us while we were deciding how to allocate our funds so the everyone in the family could have something they really enjoyed. I think she liked listening.

    It’s lovely to see good things happening in the world. It seems that it’s the small things that feel the most personal, because they are so direct. ❤


  2. Julie Glover says:

    Love this! I had someone pay for my Chick-Fil-A order in the drive-through line the other day. I was floored! Nothing had ever happened to me like that.

    Yet it renewed my faith in the kindness of people. I pray we see more of that beautiful kindness in this season. And I hope I can spread some of it myself.


  3. Michelle @MsRomanticReads says:

    What a sweet Starbucks story! And I feel you on the missing holiday spirit. I’ve always had it, and loved it, but mostly when I was still living with my parents. It was just the three of us, but it was always such a happy time. Now, I live a continent apart from my Mom and my Dad passed away two years ago. It’s just not the same. I don’t have kids, so it’s just hubby and me. The holidays usually end up just being another day, but with a little added sparkle. I don’t really feel down about it, if you know what I mean. I’m sure there are others less fortunate. But I’m still looking forward to Christmas. We put up the tree yesterday, so I am a happy camper 🙂


  4. jansenschmidt says:

    You are so right about the little things, especially this time of year. Usually about once a month I will pay it forward somewhere, usually at Starbucks. The last time I made up my mind to pay the the car behind me, hoping that someone wouldn’t drive in behind me with a car full of people. Just as I was approaching the pick-up window a car got in line behind me. It happened to be a cop. Since I had promised myself while I was waiting my turn that I’d pay for the care behind me, he was the lucky recipient. I hope I made his day.

    Keep the Christmas spirit going, Kitt.

    Patricia Rickrode
    w/a Jansen Schmidt


  5. ratmom says:

    I’ve suffered from depression my entire life and for some reason this year is just far worse than any other year I can remember. Maybe it’s going through menopause that has my emotions all torn to pieces, I don’t know. But I don’t have it in me this year to decorate or host the Christmas dinner so my grown daughter decided she would host the family dinner at her apartment this year and she’s really into it. She had her decorations up even before Thanksgiving. So while my christmas spirit is waning, hers isn’t.


  6. brickhousechick says:

    That’s so wonderful of the pilot to do that. He was clearly reacting to your initial kind move to let him go ahead of you. I strongly believe that you get back what you give even when you are not expecting to get anything in return. 🙂

    Thanks for reminding us that the holidays are tough for many and that any kind gesture can go a long way. xo


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