Honesty Or Disrespect?

I love music. For those of you who’ve been following my blog for a while, this isn’t exactly a shocker. Music often finds the words we, as everyday people, often can’t. But there are times… Moments… Of course, one of the biggest moments when we find we don’t have words are when talking about love.

We’ve all had those moments where we’ve fallen for someone who was already involved, right? Well, two seriously catchy songs came out nearly at the same time, talking about this phenomenon and how they handled it. One of them I loved. The other one? Well… Let me share the songs and see what you think.

Fun, right? 

Here’s the second song.

So the general overarching story is the same… But how each song handled it, to me, was vastly different. 

The first song, while catchy, bothered me. To me, it felt a bit disrespectful of the woman, her relationship, and lacking completely in boundaries. Don’t get me wrong. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with telling someone how you feel about then. At. All. My issue comes when you go past telling the object of your affections about how you feel and disrespect her relationship, try to cajole and manipulate her into ending things. You also assume she feels the same way, and you don’t even have the guts to call her without a little liquid courage…which means she probably should take absolutely nothing you say seriously.

The other one? He notices things about the girl. He respects their friendship. He tells her all the awesome things he admires about her. He worries she’s not being treated right…and then he lays his heart on the line and basically says that if he’s stupid enough to let you go, he’ll be there waiting and hoping for his chance. 

Is it just me? Am I overreacting or overthinking? Because I know I’ve always been turned off by people who’ve had no respect for my choices and my relationships, but I’ve been honored and flattered by people who’ve just wanted to express their admiration and caring. To me, there’s a huge difference.

What are your thoughts? Any songs hit you kind of funny recently? I’d love to hear about it. 

Dang! It’s been a while since I’ve gotten a chance to blog and I’ve missed it!

6 thoughts on “Honesty Or Disrespect?

  1. L.J. Kentowski says:

    Music is therapy. Any mood you’re in, any mood you want to get in, it is there for you. It can ground me or energize me. I love that about music.

    As far as the boundaries, I agree with you, it’s all about respect. With the first one all I picture is ego. The other one is all about the person they care for, not themselves.

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  2. kindredspirit23 says:

    Really glad you have gotten back to blogging.
    I missed reading you.
    I agree with your analysis of both songs.
    Overthinking? Maybe. Still, I have gotten into trouble a long time ago for keeping after a woman I wanted to date about her horrible significant other and how he was treating her. She left him, we started dating, even got engaged…problem? They had a “dance” – they separated and she loved the extreme emotions of getting back together. I got dumped and rightly so. It was, of course, best in the end, but hard way to learn.

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    • Kitt Crescendo says:

      That IS a hard way to learn it. Usually my trigger is trust/insecurity. I broke up with a guy once because he was so sure he was going to lose me to someone else. I got tired of his constant need for reassurance. I was with him of my own volition. Either he trusted me or he didn’t. That was the way I saw it.

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