Getting Vocal on Oral Safety

Even as children we’re taught (hopefully) about the importance of practicing safe sex. The discussion can manifest itself in various ways depending on a family’s personal or religious beliefs, and that’s up to them. But the thing they usually have in common is discussing the medical results of unsafe sex.

As someone who grew up in hospitals and with family members and lots of friends in the medical industry (plus having worked in the medically related field in multiple roles over the years), knowing just how dangerous bodily fluid exchanges can be is hammered into your brain. As an office manager in a doctor’s office, it was my responsibility to make sure our staff had all the proper supplies to ensure their safety and to have a course of action prepared should our safety protocols fail because accidents can still happen.

By now you’re thinking, “Okay Kitt, we get it. Safe sex is important to you. But why are you sharing all this stuff with us?”

Good question. (And not just because I’m a big fan of Safe, Sane, and Consensual)

I was in a book group the other day when this question was brought up…

“Have you ever had someone cum on your face? If so, was it accidental or on purpose?”

The person asking had never had the experience and was curious. I was honest. I’ve only experienced it deliberately. Not only is it rude and exhibiting a lack of control for an “accidental” face mask, but it could also potentially be dangerous.

Then came the follow up question….

“If it was done without your permission, would you be pissed off?”

Hell yeah, I’d be pissed off! As stated above, there are all sorts of dangers that haven’t been discussed. If I’m going to let a man leave me an all natural, organic face mask, I’m going to want to know that the product isn’t tainted or substandard.

Right?

So imagine my surprise when someone came at me about my concerns being unrealistic. Why? Because apparently there are people out there who believe that the only way to have oral sex is unprotected. So since I already (in this person’s mind) had his uncovered cock stroking my tonsils, what’s the big difference as to whether or not I get his jizz all over my face.

First, there are plenty of people out there who know that it is absolutely possible to give head to raincoat covered cock. No, latex isn’t the tastiest, but it’s safe.

Second, even if I were to decide to have raincoat-less oral, sperm comes out fast and hot. If you’re going to potentially blind a woman, she has the right to make the choice to take the risk. 😉

Third, the eyes are a very vulnerable when it comes to exposure to bodily fluids. The eye is a mucous membrane, hence it’s susceptible to quite a bit…so semen, golden showers, or any other exchange of bodily fluids near that area are not to be taken lightly.

Fourth, consent should always be an active part of sex. Any sex. Yes, that includes oral (and how it’s done). You wouldn’t just pee on someone without discussing golden showers first, would you? (And if your answer is yes, know it’s a great way to get your teeth knocked in.)

Just sayin’.

Safe sex is still a thing. And important. And being concerned about it doesn’t make you uncool. Any partner worth their salt should be having this discussion with you.

So yeah, I was a little surprised that my statement was seen as contradictory, but hey… Maybe I was overreacting.

What are your thoughts on this subject?

Are there any subjects in the “safe sex” universe that have boggled your mind? Maybe made you feel old? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

11 thoughts on “Getting Vocal on Oral Safety

  1. Maeve T says:

    ROFLMAO — I’m not even going to tell you how long it took me to get past “tie your partner to the bed so they won’t fall off”. Thank you so much for the laugh … I really needed that! At first I had to go back & make sure I wasn’t reading August’s work. LOL May I add I’m so very glad I have no need to worry about such a face mask. THANKS, Kitt & safe hugs to you! 😉 ❤

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  2. Professor Taboo says:

    Mmmmm, now THIS is my kinda blog-people… with warped, deliciously twisted brains! 😈 Yes, I believe I’ve stumbled—well,more like confidently entered like Kramer on Seinfeld, honestly—into my tribe, my home away from the Professor’s dungeon! 😉 😛

    Your meme reminded me of this “modified” game we’ve played at private Play-parties or at our community’s Dungeon. Umm, let’s just say it includes MORE than just two partners: (gives off a maniacal laugh with arms in the air to the Moon!)

    One little damsel bound on the bed
    One fell on and bumped his head
    Mistress called the Master
    And the Master said,
    One more monkey pounding on the bed!

    Two big monkeys pounding on the bed
    One fell on and bumped his head
    Mistress called the Master
    And the Master said,
    One more monkey spanking on the bed!

    Three big monkeys pounding on the bed
    One fell on and bumped his head
    Mistress called the Master
    And the Master said,
    One more monkey zapping on the bed!

    Four big monkeys pounding on the bed
    One fell on and bumped his head
    Mistress called the Master
    And the Master said,
    One more monkey tickling on the bed!

    Five big monkeys pounding on the bed
    One fell on and bumped his head
    Mistress called the Master
    And the Master said,
    Now its time for Nasty Ned!

    The “roles” of the monkeys, Mistress, Master, and Nasty Ned would vary and rotate depending on everyone’s mood. And btw, we NEVER had a shortage of the Damsel; that was a bit surprising! In fact, we’d often have a Waiting List for the Damsel in Distress. 😄

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    • Professor Taboo says:

      What are your thoughts on this subject? Are there any subjects in the “safe sex” universe that have boggled your mind?

      My thoughts? There are a variety of ways to help aid in everyone being and feeling “safe.” I’ve played with many people/partners who get bi-monthly or tri-monthly full STD testings and of course have their paperwork handy. Naturally, this is not 100% full-proof. But then NOTHING is 100% full-proof—life never guarantees you will live to be 95 yrs old or 10 yrs old, right? But that doesn’t mean live recklessly either.

      My unfaithful wife (1998 – 2002) gave me Genital Herpes from her four secret affairs—btw, she was a preacher’s/missionary’s daughter and got into all my Alt Lifestyles before we married!—so sometimes not even perceived trustworthiness is 100% full-proof… even with your spouse! Hahaha! 😄

      Boggled my mind? Absolutely! When I divulge to probable play-partners in the Lifestyles that I have the lesser form of Symptomatic Genital Herpes, i.e. often dormant, no breakouts, but not the Asymptomatic form, 50% of the time (maybe more) I am treated as if I have HIV or Leprosy, and I/we never hear from them again. This has made me much more empathetic to African-Americans, LGBTQ’s, and any other groups typically discriminated against—it does NOT feel good! And I am heterosexual white man for fuck’s sake! 😟

      So the sheer ignorance of REAL safe-sex and getting properly educated about it versus never talking about it openly, freely, like an ostrich head in the sand(?)… boggles my mind Kitt. It amazes me how many people are NOT well-educated about all forms of safe-sex, whether in the Alt Lifestyles or not!

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  3. kindredspirit23 says:

    Although I have not “Aways” practiced what I preached, I was simply being looked out for as it could have been horrible. I believe in safe sex. Oral is the most difficult. My beliefs are that it is not only the man who should be covered here, there are dams for use with oral on the woman. “Inconvenient” I hear them say. Yep, so is any of the over 120 sexual diseases possible in the human body. Worse, some like HPV don’t always show any symptoms in a man, but can cause a woman to have cervical cancer.
    Sorry, this “old” man just has lived a long life…
    Scott

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