You were everything I would have wished for If I knew the miracle you’d be, The beauty of your smile, Your effortless grace, Your deep intelligence, Your sly stubbornness paired with humor and compassion, Your boundless love and abiding curiosity, Your instinctive way of knowing When to be sweet and when to play. You knew when to curl up beside me, Snuggled safe in love and comfort. Gentle and unassuming, Beautiful, loyal, and true You were the best friend I could’ve asked for, And gone way too soon. The dogter of my heart…. Happy Heavenly Birthday Principessa Isabella My heart may be broken, But I wouldn’t change a minute. I miss you, baby girl.
Taken on her last birthday with us, 10/15/19, her 14th birthday.
If you haven’t figured out yet what our topic of discussion is…let me enlighten you. A few weeks ago I was honored to spend some time chatting it up with one of my favorite people, August McLaughlin of Girl Boner, and discussing spicy sex tips.
Of course, me being me, we can’t introduce the tip without sliding in deeper so you really feel and appreciate the meat, IYKWIM. Every bump of knowledge and stroke of experience builds and drives towards a much more adventurous and satisfying sexual experience.
And I enjoy facilitating the dialogue and experiences as we openly share and discuss things that many might feel belong only in the bedroom.
Me? Not so much, but then, the joke runs in my family that the first man I ever flirted with naked was probably the doctor that delivered me into this world, and the spanking was just icing on the cake. LOL! (We joke…. no actual impropriety happened at my birth, I promise.)
So why do I refer to mutual masturbation as my sexual gateway drug of choice? Because probably my biggest, most favorite thing in the world is something super simple, inexpensive, and a huge adrenaline rush under the right circumstances.
Yup, you guessed it. It’s what all those things at the top of my post have in common…. Exhibitionism.
While I don’t have to be the center of attention all the time at a party and I’m more of an ambivert than an extrovert, from a sexual aspect, I am not shy.
I’m the girl who’s more nudist at home than not.
The person who isn’t shy about unbuttoning her bikini top at the beach or pool so she doesn’t get tan lines (and if she happens to “accidentally” flash someone while adjusting or trying to tie it back up, c’est la vie).
For me, there’s a freedom and a thrill at the thought that someone is finding my body or what I’m doing exciting and arousing. I also perform better at some things when I know I might have an audience.
I know what you’re thinking… Kitt, what do you mean, right? Well, I have a little bit of a gag reflex. I know all the tricks and they help, but that requires I think about what I’m doing to prevent that choking and retching (which, BTW, isn’t really all that sexy…and can be a turn off/fear inducer), but if we’re in a car and I lean over and undo my man’s pants while he’s driving? Wow… No thought needed. I’m feeling free, loose, and sexy as hell.
A couple disclaimers… I don’t recommend doing this on busy streets or during rush hour traffic. No need to get in an accident or arrested. Also, make sure your partner can handle the excitement. Not everyone can, so start with a few strokes of the hand to see if it’s doable (and if your partner finds it as exciting as you do, because as much as it saddens me to admit, not everyone is an exhibitionist).
This may explain how vehicular sex found its way into my first couple of books… And the mile-high scene in my first full sized novel.
So here are a few misunderstandings about exhibitionism…
Exhibitionism doesn’t always = crowds. It can be an audience of one.
You can be both shy and an exhibitionist.
Exhibitionist isn’t just for submissives. In fact, many Dominants love the power of controlling their audience.
Not every Exhibitionist is an attention whore and vice versa.
I’m sure I missed a few myths, and I’m sure some of you could fill in the blanks—and I hope you do.
Truth is, some of the sexiest things I’ve done were a thousand times heightened by both knowing someone could or was watching and/or the fear of getting caught.
While I know it’s not for everyone, there’s something incredibly freeing for me knowing I’m being watched, admired, and that my every move is exciting to my partner. The power I have over their arousal and my own is thrilling. So yeah, I’ll often kick it off with a mutual masturbation game. You sit on that sofa while I sit on the love seat across from you. I’ll touch myself. You’re welcome to watch and touch yourself, but you’re not allowed to touch me until I say so. Oh yeah… And please feel free to let me know how much you’re dying to touch me or for me to touch you. I’ll let you know when you’ve got the green light. 😉
Yes, in my humble opinion, sex should be fun and adventurous. It should be an exciting, exotic trip you take together.
What excites you? Are you more exhibitionist or voyeur? And maybe my kink isn’t yours… That’s ok. Yours might not be mine, either, but I’m always willing to share and explore and try to understand, so please feel free to give me your thoughts.
So, I've been spanked, hard! I have spanked myself hard, I have spanked others even harder! I'm now heading for a different road, one that still includes all the best bits of me, all the naughty bits, all the hot steamy bits, and plenty of spanking still to be had! But this time I'm creating characters to play out my delightful erotic fantasies, I hope you enjoy the new ride as much as the previous one...
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