Musical Messages

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We all know I have my wily ways for sending messages. Often, music is involved. I blame Carly Simon for putting the thought in my head. I mean, really. Not only did she write “You’re So Vain” about an ex who still remains nameless, but she wrote it the year I was born! The song cracks me up, but definitely sends a clear message… and based on HER past, it could be any number of famous men.

I’ve found myself following in her footsteps over the years. My husband used to joke…Want to know what Kitt really thinks of you? Listen carefully to the lyrics she chooses to play for you. 😉

My bestie can tell you about a time in our youth where people had decided to start rumors about her, so we decided to really give them something to talk about. I’d say “poor guy” about her then-boyfriend in the middle, except everyone thought he was a stud who had both of us…LOL! To be clear, this was NOT the case, but we figured we should at least lead them in the wrong direction if they were going to talk…let it not be for anything mildly innocent. 😉 (Yes, mischief was my middle name, even then…especially when with my partner in crime.)

Then there was one of my exes. After a rocky break up (hey, we were in high school)…This became his song.  Me, not being shy… Well, let’s just say he knew it and somehow the song seemed to come on whenever he’d be around. Go figure!

For me, James Ingram seemed to always have the right lyrics to break a heart of someone I genuinely cared for but didn’t quite reciprocate their intense feelings. Ever dated someone really awesome only to realize that they felt so much more deeply than you did…and you hated hurting them, but to give false hope would’ve been even worse? This was my song for that…

Or have you had a friend who you adore…one of the best, kindest, gentlest souls you know? And they’re in love. With you. Maybe you didn’t even want to have to say the words. You didn’t want to see the hurt or devastation that you knew would be there…even as they accepted your words and you (which somehow only makes the guilt that much worse). I may have even played this song for my husband back in the early stages of our friendship when I was too blind to see the value of what I had. Thankfully he’s patient and stuck around…though he did call me out on my message. 😉 This was one of the few times I was ECSTATIC to be wrong.

For those of you in long term relationships…ever just needed a break? Maybe a little space? This song has been known to blast in my house if I need some alone time…LOL! Hey, at least it wasn’t U + Ur Hand… 😉

Then there are the times where you get sick of the BS… Maybe that friend that does nothing but whine or lie or feel sorry for themselves. We all have our breaking points when you’re just done. Yes, I have sent this message in the past….and if that didn’t work, I’m not exactly afraid of confrontation.

Most important though? The messages you send yourself… Like when you’re a bit scared, apprehensive….and you need to remember how empowered you truly are… How strong…HOW ADAPTABLE… This is my newest favorite….

Do you use music to speak for you? To you? What songs have you used to communicate messages? You know I love when you guys share. It gives me little insights into you guys and what makes you tick…. Nothing thrills me more than that. 🙂 Besides, I’ve got something going on my personal life that could use some fingers crossed and good thoughts….

The Music Of Love

Maybe it’s being away from my hubby longer than I’ve been from him in nearly 19 years, but I’m feeling a touch romantic today. Of course, it could also be that love songs have some of the best lyrics…or that I’ve been sending a friend a bunch of tunes, but regardless, it got me thinking.

Remember Mix Tapes? It used to be the ultimate romantic gesture when I was a young teen. The songs hand selected your specific sweetheart in mind…songs that would tell that person how much you cared… Do kids even do stuff like that anymore? Watching the youth of today I’m beginning to wonder if romance is lost on them. Or maybe it’s the simple romantic gestures…that don’t cost anything but thought and time. So here’s the deal. I only have my iPad, so it’s making my usual way of posting impossible, but I’m going to try.

I was thinking. What songs have been dedicated to you? Or maybe sung to you. What songs have you dedicated to the loves…or maybe crushes…of your past? Everyone has one…just ask Taylor Swift! 😉

My first “real” boyfriend, Jay, lip sync’ed this song to me…Always but the relationship ended. He lied. He cheated. Suddenly, this beautiful song became something I couldn’t stand. Oddly enough, all these years later and I still don’t like it.

Then there was Brad. He was my blond haired, blue eyed Adonis. He towered over me at 6′ and made me feel delicate and beautiful standing beside him. The washboard abs were icing on the cake. Brad was all about the romantic gestures. He was my mixture tape guy, but he was also the boy who draped me over him while laying on the couch kissing…and sang I Remember You against my lips, all the while gazing into my eyes. It was sweetly romantic. And Send Me An Angel was one of the songs he put on my tape. Of course the down side is that when we broke up…it was not amicable. Hate Everything About You became our theme song, LOL! And yes, we found a way to sing that one to each other, too…LOL!

Hubby and my first romantic dance was in a parking garage. We had just pulled in when Wonderful, Tonight came on the radio. He stepped out of the car, got my door, then pulled me into his arms, a spontaneous, romantic gesture. Of course our first dance at our wedding will also always have a soft spot. My Destiny will, for me, always tell the story of hubby and me.

Now it’s your turn. Share your lovey dovey songs. Or your I hate you songs… Don’t be shy! Everyone is welcome. Music soothes the heart!