Wanna know what I’m doing to celebrate?
I’m hanging out with my family….
AND…
Giving this book away for FREE!
Help me celebrate my birthday and grab your copy!
Happy Birthday to Me & My Country!
My Girl
You were my best Christmas present ever!
You tolerated a lot for those of us who love you.
Including a younger sibling after being an only child forever…
Full of grace and the most soulful eyes.
You were a good friend.
A vigilant guardian of the neighborhood who showed her sister the way.
A great cousin!
Master of hiding in plain sight…
You were always elegant and majestic.
I can’t believe it’s been a year today.
I miss you, my girl…
Let There Be Holiday Baking #ChristmasCookies
What are your favorite cookies? Are they different from your favorite holiday cookie?
My sister and I love to bake. We started doing it at a young age with our mom. We got to bake side by side with her, our kid-sized bread loaves and pies going in with her grown up sized… Yes, she had mini bread loaf pans and tart tins to match her full sized ones, and that’s what we got to use. Then there were cookies and muffins and cupcakes…
As adults, we now find that baking relaxes us and brings on the nostalgia….
Which is why I love baking with the holidays.
In fact, so far, here’s what I’ve made this new recipe…
Some spicy orange bark, and some chocolate peanut butter balls round out the candy side (though I’m thinking to also make peppermint bark).
And these Swedish Oatmeal cookies whose recipe was shared with me by a former 92 year old volunteer back in the day.
Next up will be hubby’s favorite, Candy Cane Cloud.
My favorite… Pumpkin Cookies…
Or maybe the universal favorite… Peanut Butter Blossoms.
Tomorrow I’ll be baking a few of these cookies with my sister and nephew…. and prepping trays to give out to my day job peeps.
All of this?
Screams that Christmas is coming soon and gets me super exited.
So if you haven’t told me yet, what is your favorite kind cookie?
What makes it feel like the holidays for you?
Do you bake or are you on the receiving end from someone/somewhere else?
Obviously, Legendary George Strait agrees with me on this subject…
Christmas Magic Through a Child’s Eyes
I’m fortunate. Although my family has lived miles away for years, one of my sisters has managed to make it into town during the holidays.
Part of my joy has been watching that little boy’s eyes light up with excitement and wonder. Children can find laughter and fun in practically everything. A couple years ago I got a sweater with reversible sequins that can spell out naughty or nice depending on which way you rub… The kid had a blast. His laughter was infectious. That joy….innocent.
He loves helping bake in the kitchen and was thrilled to share his Gingerbread ninjas that he’d made… In fact, he’s super excited about helping me bake my Christmas cookies this weekend.
When they went to a little group of boutique shops near their house for dinner one night and discovered the whole place had been decked out for the holidays, he was ecstatic.
His eyes wide, voice filled with wonder, he looked around and said to my sis in a hushed voice, “Mama, it’s Christmas town!”
Seeing the holidays through a Child’s eyes reminds you of the magic and how you felt before cynicism and life wore us down. Being around him reminds me constantly of all the things I love about this holiday. I think that’s why this Lady A song drew me in.
If you love this holiday, what is your favorite memory? What do you love most about this time of year?
When Christmas Feels Un-Christmaslike… #ChristmasAlwaysFindsMe
Let’s be real.
This year has been HARD. For EVERYONE.
We’re all struggling to find joy, peace, and silver linings.
Some turn inward to find that peace.
And while I definitely search internally for comfort and calm, my Christmas Joy comes with bringing it to others.
Yesterday I did a little thing. It wasn’t much, but it made a difference. I went to the Dollar Tree yesterday after work and picked up a bunch of garland, window clings, and little Santas and Elves. Today I brought them to work and we used them to decorate all of our work station cubicles, spreading a little cheer.
In my alternate universe I’m an alarm dispatcher for security companies. Not exactly a “no stress” job. We need a little Christmas there.
To watch the faces of my work peeps brighten and to see them getting excited about decorating their stations made my whole day!
And it seems I’m not the only one feeling the need to give…
Hubby called me at work to see how I felt about adopting a family in need and making Christmas special for them. We picked a single mom with 5 children between the ages of 10-2. No child should have to miss out on the magic of Christmas.
As many of my long term readers know, I’m a military brat.
We moved. A lot.
Somehow, Christmas still found it’s way into my heart and soul….so this song by the incredibly talented new(ish) artist, Ingrid Andress, really spoke to me on a deep level.
Wherever you are…
Whatever you’re doing….
My greatest wish for you this holiday season?
That Christmas finds you.
*hugs*
Continuing the #AttitudeOfGratitude through December
I think the first time I saw this particular gift giving idea was on Facebook… Maybe last year. I thought it was a cool idea. This year hubby and I are actually in a position (despite all the horribleness that has been 2020) to follow through…
Although I do enjoy receiving gifts, nothing makes me happier than giving to others. There’s something about the way faces light up. The joy of discovering someone cared enough to go out of their way for you. Or maybe it’s a language that tells a person….YOU ARE LOVED.
All I know is it works for me. Making others feel valued and happy makes me happy.
Maybe that’s why this Jackson 5 song has been a personal favorite of mine since my childhood.
Heartfelt Holidays #MyChristmasPlaylist
Confession time… Although I love Christmas, I hate being cold. Thus, I hate winter. With a passion.
It was actually a big considering factor for me when I decided to move to Florida in 1999. Yes, I’ve been in cold climates. Lived in both Germany and Chicago. I’ve lived in warm ones, too… Hello Philippines.
Now, I don’t know if that particular opinion is an unpopular one or not, but we can always take a poll…
What’s your favorite season? What about holiday?
And is there anything about the holiday you love that may be considered an unpopular opinion?
*psst* My secret is that I can’t stand Love, Actually (the movie).
I know.
I know…
It makes me a heathen.
Still DON’T LIKE IT!
My most favorite thing of all? Christmas Music! One of my all time favorites is Amy Grant‘s Tender Tennessee Christmas.
Isn’t it awesome that my newest favorite group, Home Free, covered it with they talented Rachel Wammack? Take a listen and see if you don’t understand a little bit of why I’m now a dedicated Home Fry (what they call Home Free aficionados).
Does this not help to make your season bright?
Have you heard of these guys? Are you a fan? What’s your favorite Christmas song?
Thankful for You – Finding My Attitude of Gratitude (and a gift)
This year has been hard for everyone. No doubt. Between the Rona, quarantine, politics (which I will not be engaging in discussion about because that’s not my style and everyone’s entitled to their opinion), all the sad and strange happenings that seem to be occurring in everyone’s lives, this world could feel downright oppressive.
If you’re not ok right now, I get it, and I’d like to hear from you because I’d like to show you some love and support (and add you to my prayers–even if it’s not something you believe it it can’t hurt, right?).
But me? I need a different kind of focus…
The reality is most of those things are outside of our control, right?
If you’ve been reading my blog for a while you already know “out of my control” is not my bag…so I focused on my controllables.
Like finding pretty purple glasses that make me feel kinda sexy.
Like discovering that the silver in my hair looks hawt enough to embrace growing it out until it’s safe enough to meet with my stylist. (I’m in a state where I could go because we’re not locked down, but she’s the caregiver for her elderly mother and I don’t feel comfortable exposing her to me when I’ve been an “essential worker” and around people this whole time.)
Most of all I’m thankful for YOU–my online family. I’m grateful for the laughter from shared memes, the check-ins, the likes and comments, the messages, the encouragement and feedback.
It meant so much to me that I wanted to do something nice for you, so TODAY and TOMORROW ONLY I’ve made A Way With Words FREE!
I’m spending today at work, but tomorrow both my brother-in-law (the ER doc) and I will be off, so we’ll enjoy our family Thanksgiving then. I can’t wait for all the fabulous food and family time.
What are you thankful for? What’s your favorite Thanksgiving tradition? What about your favorite food?
For My Beloved on Her Birthday
Beloved
You were everything I would have wished for
If I knew the miracle you’d be,
The beauty of your smile,
Your effortless grace,
Your deep intelligence,
Your sly stubbornness paired with humor and compassion,
Your boundless love and abiding curiosity,
Your instinctive way of knowing
When to be sweet and when to play.
You knew when to curl up beside me,
Snuggled safe in love and comfort.
Gentle and unassuming,
Beautiful, loyal, and true
You were the best friend I could’ve asked for,
And gone way too soon.
The dogter of my heart….
Happy Heavenly Birthday
Principessa Isabella
My heart may be broken,
But I wouldn’t change a minute.
I miss you, baby girl.
Just the Tip Leads to Sexhibition
Road Head.
Mile High Club.
Public Restrooms.
Back of a Movie Theater.
On the Dance Floor.
If you haven’t figured out yet what our topic of discussion is…let me enlighten you. A few weeks ago I was honored to spend some time chatting it up with one of my favorite people, August McLaughlin of Girl Boner, and discussing spicy sex tips.
Of course, me being me, we can’t introduce the tip without sliding in deeper so you really feel and appreciate the meat, IYKWIM. Every bump of knowledge and stroke of experience builds and drives towards a much more adventurous and satisfying sexual experience.
And I enjoy facilitating the dialogue and experiences as we openly share and discuss things that many might feel belong only in the bedroom.
Me? Not so much, but then, the joke runs in my family that the first man I ever flirted with naked was probably the doctor that delivered me into this world, and the spanking was just icing on the cake. LOL! (We joke…. no actual impropriety happened at my birth, I promise.)
So why do I refer to mutual masturbation as my sexual gateway drug of choice? Because probably my biggest, most favorite thing in the world is something super simple, inexpensive, and a huge adrenaline rush under the right circumstances.
Yup, you guessed it. It’s what all those things at the top of my post have in common…. Exhibitionism.
While I don’t have to be the center of attention all the time at a party and I’m more of an ambivert than an extrovert, from a sexual aspect, I am not shy.
I’m the girl who’s more nudist at home than not.
The person who isn’t shy about unbuttoning her bikini top at the beach or pool so she doesn’t get tan lines (and if she happens to “accidentally” flash someone while adjusting or trying to tie it back up, c’est la vie).
For me, there’s a freedom and a thrill at the thought that someone is finding my body or what I’m doing exciting and arousing. I also perform better at some things when I know I might have an audience.
I know what you’re thinking… Kitt, what do you mean, right? Well, I have a little bit of a gag reflex. I know all the tricks and they help, but that requires I think about what I’m doing to prevent that choking and retching (which, BTW, isn’t really all that sexy…and can be a turn off/fear inducer), but if we’re in a car and I lean over and undo my man’s pants while he’s driving? Wow… No thought needed. I’m feeling free, loose, and sexy as hell.
A couple disclaimers… I don’t recommend doing this on busy streets or during rush hour traffic. No need to get in an accident or arrested. Also, make sure your partner can handle the excitement. Not everyone can, so start with a few strokes of the hand to see if it’s doable (and if your partner finds it as exciting as you do, because as much as it saddens me to admit, not everyone is an exhibitionist).
This may explain how vehicular sex found its way into my first couple of books… And the mile-high scene in my first full sized novel.
So here are a few misunderstandings about exhibitionism…
- Exhibitionism doesn’t always = crowds. It can be an audience of one.
- You can be both shy and an exhibitionist.
- Exhibitionist isn’t just for submissives. In fact, many Dominants love the power of controlling their audience.
- Not every Exhibitionist is an attention whore and vice versa.
I’m sure I missed a few myths, and I’m sure some of you could fill in the blanks—and I hope you do.
Truth is, some of the sexiest things I’ve done were a thousand times heightened by both knowing someone could or was watching and/or the fear of getting caught.
While I know it’s not for everyone, there’s something incredibly freeing for me knowing I’m being watched, admired, and that my every move is exciting to my partner. The power I have over their arousal and my own is thrilling. So yeah, I’ll often kick it off with a mutual masturbation game. You sit on that sofa while I sit on the love seat across from you. I’ll touch myself. You’re welcome to watch and touch yourself, but you’re not allowed to touch me until I say so. Oh yeah… And please feel free to let me know how much you’re dying to touch me or for me to touch you. I’ll let you know when you’ve got the green light. 😉
Yes, in my humble opinion, sex should be fun and adventurous. It should be an exciting, exotic trip you take together.
What excites you? Are you more exhibitionist or voyeur? And maybe my kink isn’t yours… That’s ok. Yours might not be mine, either, but I’m always willing to share and explore and try to understand, so please feel free to give me your thoughts.
theinnerwildkat 