Sunday Is For Intimacy

I love Sundays…especially the lazy ones. I adore Etta James…she was the original on this particular tune. Why did I choose Reba for this song? Because no one tells a story with her videos quite the way that she does. With this, she captures that “feel good” feeling, how special time spent with family can be, and the importance of children seeing that their parents love each other.

Sometimes I look at all the issues that face the world today…and think it all boils down to lack of love and family stability. It seems to me that people are so quick to throw love away when it gets hard. We don’t spend enough time together…talking to each other. People rarely sit down at the dinner table as a family anymore…not even on Sundays. We communicate through text messaging and email more than we do face to face. The intimacy of pure conversation, gone by the wayside.

A friend of mine joked one day on her Facebook page. She posted a picture and titled it “Teens At Risk” then added “no need to rub your eyes…these teens are actually playing the board game-gasp!” Sadly, that used to be something families did together. It was a great time to talk, to laugh, to build bonds….and we rarely see it anymore. When I was younger it was all about Scrabble and Life in our house. Can you imagine how a Scrabble game could go with our youth of today? With all the online and text short hand, it’s no wonder why writing and grammar is such a struggle in school. Even more importantly is that it’s just one more deterioration of family intimacy.

As important as family intimacy is, there’s also the intimacy between couples…the desire to work things out or love things out. As many of you who’ve read my poetry know, I have a predilection towards rain. I find rain to be intensely sexy. I love making out in the rain. I love walking in the rain (when it’s not too cold). I firmly believe rainy days were meant for three things…sleep, sex and reading….and not necessarily in that order. Isn’t it interesting that the ever so sexy Keith Urban just happens to have a song about rainy Sunday sex?

Am I completely off base in my assessments of what is lacking these days? I know there’s more than just this, but I think it’s a great place to start. So if you’re home with your family tonight, why not watch a show together? Or play a board game? And if it’s only you and the one you love, why not hide under the covers?

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19 thoughts on “Sunday Is For Intimacy

  1. Maryanne says:

    You described me and my husband so well. I love not only rainy days, but winter days, perfect for being home and snuggling. He made me an early dinner tonite and we will probably play Monopoly later 🙂

  2. Shannygirl says:

    I completely agree with you. We sit down to dinner almost every night as a family and we play games. We watch movies together and try to do family things. Sometimes I feel like the luckiest woman in the world because we aren’t one of those families that are on the run non stop.

    • Kitt Crescendo says:

      Absolutely. I don’t think it’s ever really easy, but making it a priority sends a very clear message, too. 🙂 I’m glad you’re making it happen. Of course, I had no doubt you would.

  3. PapaBear says:

    Hi Kitt,
    Your opinions here are dead-on correct. Technology is wonderful for its conveniences, but not so great as it DOES destroy intimate relationships between family members, loved ones, and friends. There’s nothing like a great face-to-face conversation, even if you argue…, and I’ve never made love via a smart phone!!!!!!!!! Great post.
    Paul

    • Kitt Crescendo says:

      Thank you. It saddens me that there is now an entire generation out there that, with the exception of a few, have no idea what it’s like to have consistent, quality family time. Heck, they barely know what a home cooked meal tastes like.

  4. Audrey says:

    I think you’re so right! J and I have found ourselves returning to playing board games in the evening, just the two of us, to wind down after a long work day. It give us the chance to talk and share and it’s so much more intimate and special than just cuddling up on the couch watching tv. When we head the direction of creating our own family I want us to continue focusing on that kind of quality time.

    • Kitt Crescendo says:

      Absolutely! And there’s the laughter, camaraderie and friendly competition that goes with that. It’s great for fun & friendship, which is also important to strong, healthy relationships. 🙂

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